Monday, April 14, 2014

How We Found Out

8 week ultrasound photo

I feel like a lot of this pregnancy stuff is TMI, but at the same time it's all the stuff I want to know about other people. So here goes, TMI and all! If you don't want the TMI, don't continue reading, k? K.


Leigh and I had not really made a decision about kids. I'm pretty convinced he was born with a grown up heart, and having kids didn't seem appealing to him. I wasn't at that baby craving stage yet. Also, everywhere we went there were screaming kids, we always joked that the universe was trying to send us a message that it wasn't for us. Yet, I could so clearly picture us ONE DAY with a child. Him, me, Layla and a baby. I always said that I didn't want to anything out, I just wanted to see what would happen. That being said we were usually very careful. Except one time, apparently!

So things were coming up in my cycle where I was getting, lets say, a little less nice Taren and a little more monster bitch Taren. Leigh usually braces himself for these few days, and it seemed to be coming. But then it never did. Over a week went by, I had some cramps but nothing else. Finally, after being so nauseated one night when we went out for dinner, after ordering ginger ale and nachos for one I thought I better bring up the conversation. I debated just getting a pregnancy test and doing it myself, but then I thought telling Leigh would give him a heart attack.

I told him that I thought there was a slight chance something was going on and he suggested we stop at Shoppers on the way home for a pregnancy test. I ran in and tried to get one. It was super awkward, as there was someone shopping in the same aisle for something else staring me down. I just grabbed a pack of two that seemed legit and paid.

We went home after that, I drank a bunch of water and went for it. I left the test in the bedroom and went into the living room where Leigh was on the computer and told him to go look in two minutes. He did, and immediately looked at me and said "Wait, did you read the instructions? It has crossed lines, what does that mean?" So I'm trying to pull out the instructions with my hands shaking. He read them over, looked at the test and said "This definitely says your pregnant."

I was seriously so shocked, I think both of us were. We didn't even know what to say. I decided to take the other test in the morning just in case, since they're supposed to be more accurate in the morning. We woke up at 6am and I did another test. It turned to positive seriously within seconds.

We decided to go to the walk in clinic since it was open that morning. I wasn't sure if they could even do anything different but I think we needed it confirmed and it's seriously impossible to get into our family doctor right now. They confirmed the pregnancy and estimated the due date.

The next day, I went in to get the blood work done so it was all ready when I finally got to see my doctor. I decided to go meet Leigh for lunch. He was so sweet and told me he was excited and he thought it'd be good for us. He also started picking out names! We agreed to think positive and not let anything stress us out, we'd figure it all out together.

We told his parents right away, and they were so over the moon, especially my mother in law. We had to wait to tell my parents because my Mom was still away for another week or so and I really wanted them to find out together. I had some time to think about it, and I wanted to tell them in an exciting way, so I bought a tiny onesie and wrote on it, wrapped it up in a gift bag. We went over to their house for a little birthday dinner for Leigh and I told them I had a little present for them for their anniversary. They started to open it together and when my Mom realised what it was, she let out a shriek to end all shrieks. She ran over and hugged me and that's when the shriek turned into a wail. It was seriously priceless. This pic says it all:

I had a few failed attempts to get my siblings/siblings in law over to my parents so they could find out the news in person, but it did not work out that way. I was dying to see their reactions, so we facetimed them and my Mom showed them the onesie. It was so much fun seeing their reactions! We also told Leigh's brother and sister the following Monday at Leigh's other birthday dinner (spoiled kid) and that was so much fun too! Baby is so lucky to have so many awesome aunts and uncles!

I would just like to add that I am very aware of how many people struggle with infertility and pregnancy complications, and this post is not meant to offend anyone who has suffered. My heart breaks for those who want a child so badly, and I really don't understand why some people get pregnant some easily and some don't. It really doesn't seem fair sometimes, but please just know that I am so grateful that we have been blessed with this baby, and my thoughts and prayers go out to anyone that is having struggles and I sincerely hope that they are next to be blessed with a child!


  1. So awesome!! So excited for you!!

  2. Sounds like when I was pregnant with Kane. It only took once and I didn't believe it until I saw it in the ultrasound! I hid it from Rick until after I got blood work done lol. And I don't think you need to apologize or feel like you offended any one, people deal with all kinds of different issues every day and your real friends will be truly happy for you!